Beat the green-eyed monster

Do you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others?  It's human nature to look at ourselves in relation to others, but often this can drive us crazy with endless wants and desires to be better than our neighbours.  For some of us, this can result in bad habits such as excessive spending and a focus on all things superficial.

Often we have underlying reasons for jealousy - what triggers your feelings of jealousy?  What are the thoughts running through your mind when you feel this emotion?  Are you feeling unsatisfied with an aspect of your life?

"If only I had more Chihuahuas...."

Here are some constructive strategies you can utilise to suppress your inner green-eyed monster.

1)  Consider what you're thankful for.  Next time you feel the urge to splurge on a new pair of heels, think about what it is that you do have. Reflect on your achievements, successes, positive relationships....think about what matters in life, and be thankful for it!!

2)  Focus on achieving goals and personal growth....  think about who you really want to be in this lifetime - focus on nurturing your talents, developing your skills and hitting goal posts... when you're engaged in an activity that helps you develop personally, you'll probably find you're less caught up in emotions like jealousy and more focused on bettering yourself.

3)  Identify your values - do you value financial security?  Or do you value looking fantastic to show up your best friend?  Consider your values and set goals in line with them.... looking at your savings grow will be far more fulfilling in the long run, compared to buying a new top which you will probably wear once or twice, then still feel like you need another new top.

4)  Do something positive or give back to others - prosocial acts are good for mental health!!  Participate in a fundraising activity, donate your unworn clothes to others or help a stressed out friend tidy up her apartment.  You will feel better for it.